When Your Teen Won't Go to School

School refusal is usually driven by anxiety, low mood, or something happening at school, not laziness. This guide covers the morning battle, working with the school, 504 plans and IEPs, and a realistic path back.

We're not clinicians or doctors, and this practical guide isn't medical advice. For guidance about your teen, always talk with their doctor or therapist. If you're worried about their safety, call or text 988, or call 911.

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504 Plans and IEPs Explained for Parents

A 504 plan comes from Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973, a civil rights law that covers students with a physical or mental impairment that…

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Why Forcing a Teen to Go to School Often Backfires, and What Works Better

Forcing a frightened teen to school with threats, physical pressure, or punishments that keep escalating often raises their fear and strains trust, wh…

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The Morning Battle: Practical Steps for Getting a Teen Who Refuses School Out the Door

Mornings with a teen who refuses school usually go better when decisions are made the night before, so the morning itself runs on a short, predictable…

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School Refusal

504 Plans and IEPs Explained for ParentsA 504 plan comes from Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973, a civil rights law that covers students with a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits learning or another major life activity.10 min Why Forcing a Teen to Go to School Often Backfires, and What Works BetterForcing a frightened teen to school with threats, physical pressure, or punishments that keep escalating often raises their fear and strains trust, which can make the next morning harder rather than easier.10 min The Morning Battle: Practical Steps for Getting a Teen Who Refuses School Out the DoorMornings with a teen who refuses school usually go better when decisions are made the night before, so the morning itself runs on a short, predictable routine with as little negotiation as possible.9 min Working With Your Teen's School on a Return PlanA school return plan is a written agreement between parents, the teen and the school that lays out a gradual schedule, a safe person, regular check-ins and any changes to workload while the teen gets back to full days.9 min What Is School Refusal? Why Some Teens Can't Make Themselves Go to SchoolSchool refusal is a pattern in which a teen has serious, ongoing difficulty going to school or staying there, usually because of anxiety or emotional distress rather than a lack of interest.9 min

When it's more than home can handle

You don't have to figure out the next step alone

We're not clinicians, so the Getting Help guide explains your options in plain language and points you toward people who can evaluate your teen. If you're worried about safety, call or text 988, or call 911.

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